HOW TO SECURE STRESS-FREE LIFE?

HOW TO SECURE STRESS-FREE LIFE?
09.11.2021

There is a myth that stress is inevitable. But is it?

We know that a stress-free life is possible. It should be desirable.

In life, we all meet with external pressures and obstacles. Those are impossible to end. However, we can investigate every problem we encounter as a challenge.

Stress-free life doesn't mean there will no longer be any external pressures, challenges, or deadlines.

Instead, a stress-free life means you acquire the intrapersonal skills that allow you to keep your inner calm regardless of the external conditions.

WHAT IS THE CAUSE OF STRESS?

All stress happens because of your own inner reactivity.

Your inner reactivity has three components:

  1. Mental component (thoughts, verbal memories and imagination);
  2. Emotional component (how you feel);
  3. Physical component (flight or fight response, muscular tensions, etc.).

However, the physical effect on your body happens primarily due to the mental and emotional reactions within your own mind.

In the case of office work and routine life, we don't face any direct physical threats. Some physical stress may be experienced on our bodies in the case of heavy physical work or due to a forced position where we can't move. Some jobs may indeed require sitting immobile or performing some intense physical labor. However, in the case of modern office work, this is rarely the case.
 

MISCONCEPTIONS OF OUR INTRAPERSONAL DOMAIN

William Shakespeare erroneously re-stated, "I think, therefore, I am". This thought actually originates from a French philosopher, René Descartes, and it is misguiding most of us in the Western world. When you, for example, sleep or enjoy a brief moment of inner silence, you still exist (I am even when I do not think).

By learning intrapersonal skills and using self-observation, you can derive a completely different conclusion – I have thoughts, and I can observe them. Therefore, I am not my thoughts; I have thoughts.

This truth is also present in most ancient wisdom and is very much alive in the Eastern world and among tribes who live in harmony with nature. They live lives that are more present or fully in the now.

In nature, silence is always present in the background. When you are in nature, you can calm down and experience this silence easily within you (watch the video below).
 

 

MENTAL WELLNESS IS KNOWING YOUR INNER HIERARCHY

Your essence is silence or consciousness. Your first tool is your awareness. This is confirmed by many ancient teachings. Books by Eckart Tolle, Ingvar Villido, Paramahansa Yogananda and many others confirm this.

You as your True Self can have thoughts and emotions.

The accurate way to perceive your thoughts and emotions are to regard them as your inner tools.

When you receive insight, that is in essence nonverbal, you can use your thoughts that consist of the word you have learned to describe something.

We can also illustrate that differently – when a child is born, he or she possesses no words. He can just cry and smile. However, this child, nonetheless, exists. During the first year of life, the child uses his or her awareness to observe the language. Subsequently (s)he picks up the words that later allow expressing thoughts.

When you place a child into an altered environment where a different language is spoken, that child absorbs that language very easily. So our thoughts and cultural traditions and ways of life are learned. And we seldom question if what we have learned is accurate.
 

TIME TO RELEARN HOW TO BE MENTALLY SHARP AND WELL

Let us remind you that you have thoughts and emotions, and thus you can lead them with your own awareness at will. You can even replace or let go of your thoughts and emotions at will.

Examine a simple experience, think of the time you were happy. Now, feel this happiness! Allow yourself to re-experience that happy feeling.

What happened? You changed your thoughts and feelings. You can remember when you were sad, lucky, respected. What happens?

What if you chose to read the book on your table or the work-related memo on your screen? What happens? Are you going along with it? How does reading any text influence your inner domain?

YOU CAN CHOOSE HOW TO RESPOND

When we accept we can lead our thoughts and emotions, we can choose our ability to respond adequately to situations. Knowing you aren't our thoughts and emotions will allow you to step out of inner reactivity.

You use your pen. You aren't your pen. You use your computer, but never consider the computer to be yourself. You have a physical body and can lead it at will. You can make it stand up and go to work, visit the shop or walk back to the safety of your home. 

In a similar fashion, you can close your eyes and imagine Big Ben in London. You can imagine palm trees. You can think of Big Ben or palm trees. And you can also let go of those thoughts and look around. Looking out with the aim to observe allows you to observe what is in your room or on your desk or on your computer or mobile device screen.

BENEFITS OF AWARE OBSERVATIONS

Observing with full awareness is different from thinking. It is what we employed when we were kids.

When you observe an object, it is about noticing its details with your awareness.

Alternatively, you can also think about this object or just slip over it without really noticing it, but that is a different inner process than observation. You can think about something within your mind without really observing and noticing what is happening around you. So, every day we pass millions of objects without becoming aware of them. Also, similarly, we miss opportunities as we are not fully present and ready to observe the possibilities.
 

How often do you notice details, such as the structure of the sand?


Many of us are walking on the beach without even noticing the sand or what kind of wonderful shapes it forms. We often get so lost in our thoughts and emotions that we lose touch with the present moment and our current surroundings. That disturbs our life and our work. 

You have power over your thoughts and emotions. Becoming aware of this is liberating. Becoming aware of this allows you to focus.


YOUR INTRAPERSONAL SKILLS DETERMINE YOUR EXTERNAL FOCUS

Keeping your thoughts focused on the task, hence, represents an aware decision that needs to be made by you.

Selecting what you focus upon consciously or being aware of where your focus is are more stress-free options than letting your monkey mind run wild.

Stress becomes included when you aren't at peace with your task or location. Lacking inner peace happens because there is a disturbing emotion in place. For example, loneliness, feeling overwhelmed or tired. You subconsciously pick that emotion and then become one with it until the emotion uses you.

As soon as subconscious emotions and contradicting thoughts appear, you face an inner reactivity. And when it gets strong, you experience stress. Experiencing stress is due to the lack of awareness-based intrapersonal skills.

Most people don't understand their minds and inner activities at all. Stress statistics confirm that as well as the lack of employee engagement confirms that. The lack of employee engagement is between 70-80% and the number of people who experience stress at work is also between 70-80% as we have proven based on statistics on our previous blogs. However, due to the pandemic, the stress numbers have risen in some cases up to 90%, and we see great resignation and immense amounts of burnout.

EXTERNAL STRESS REDUCTION AND BURNOUT PREVENTION SOLUTIONS ALONE DO NOT WORK

Even with remote work, most people still blame external conditions, whilst in reality, external conditions don't influence you if you remain innerly calm and fully aware.

In general, the external conditions are only about 20% of the stress and psychological wellbeing equation. It is indeed considerably more effortless to be well and work well in safe and peaceful surroundings than in a situation that is causing a need to focus more intensely. And in those situations, an aware and relaxed way to focus saves your day!

However, the most efficient stress reduction and burnout method is learning intrapersonal skills. We have made it easy to obtain such skills on the Wellness Orbit e-training 'Performing Under Pressure'. When people with excellent intrapersonal skills meet a good work environment, your people and business will thrive.


Click to read more about this unique stress reduction and burnout prevention method.

Excellent work environments matter, they support employee mental wellness. Excellent interpersonal relations matter also, they support mental well-being on the contrary to toxic work relations.

In a constantly changing world of work, your intrapersonal skills are the most crucial component of your mental sharpness, mental wellness and ability to respond adequately to realistic situations.

When you know how to employ your intrapersonal skill, you enjoy the freedom to encounter challenging situations.

Awareness-based intrapersonal skills allow you to overcome the challenges you face and enjoy a stress-free life. With the help of observing our inner domain and leading processes within it, you can also reduce your burnout risk close to zero.
 

Here, up North, we observe the change of seasons and its wonderful details.


This stress-free life blog is written by Kaur Lass